It sounds Scary!!! Isn’t it? But no matter how scary, it is certainly one the most beautiful thing that happens to us in our lifetime. Colours, celebrations, shopping (that’s the best part) and of course the commencement of your journey with your better half. But nothing in the world is all glittery. Surely it’s all so beautiful but along with it comes a lot of inhibitions and doubts, especially here in India where a girl’s life changes entirely after this day. New people, new life, new house, at times new city, and a new companion- even if you already know the guy, living 24*7 with someone is altogether a different story. So how exactly the bride-to-be feels and how the guy should deal with it?

1) Will his parents love me as much as my own parents? Or will I be judged upon everything I do?

• A girl is bound to feel this, after all she has to leave all her loved ones behind, leave her crazy habits and change the way she’s been living her life all these years, because she is to become a part of your family and most importantly you. You have to make her feel comfortable, tell her what your parents love, what is it that is not acceptable to them; after all no one knows the family better than you.

2) Do I need to leave my job or switch my career?

• For past 20 years maybe, she’s worked day and night to build her career or get the job she always dreamt of. Of course she loves you but she loves her career too. She may not be working to earn but simply because she loves working. Her career is as important as yours. So, it becomes your duty to support her and if needed stand up for her because you are the only one she can rely on amidst her new family.

3) Will I be able to stand up to the expectations of his family?

• As a daughter-in-law, there’ll be various things which will be expected out of her. And she might end up doing most of them but at the end of the day she’s a human and she might fail and disappoint your family. But you’ll have to understand how difficult and new it is for her and she is doing all this just for you. You’ll have to give her time and be there for her.

Guys, she’s leaving all her dreams and people, just to be with you. Support her, be her strength and love her unconditionally. She believes in you. That’s the reason she said yes. Make her belief stronger and she would try her best to never give you a reason to complain.